Been lazy since i returned frm the "Land of Smiles" last Tues...
Had a fruitful trip wit lotsa shopping, shopping and shopping.. hahahaha.... of coz not forgetting the "Thai Massage"...though i still find it abit the not-enuff... hahaha...shld have tis as a "regular-routine" huh... hmm...shld really consider... hahahah =X
like i said earlier....been lazy.... so i shall use some of the pictures to do the toking instead.... hahaha...(nt mani fotos cz.... this is a SHOPPING TRIP!!!!! not PHOTOTAKING trip k.... dun complaint....)
---BKK triP JulY 2007---
[5am @ SpoRe aiRpoRt-jZ after cheCkin...*sleepy*]
[BreaKfaSt tiMe - SandWiCh...=(...so sad]
[@ BKK New AiRpoRt- theiR buGgy LoOk Like BB manz...]
[a pLeaSanT suRpriSE frOm OuR hOteL!!]
[OuR rOoM was HUGE!!! - "SO tiring to walk frm 1 coRner to the othER - said by BEe" haha]
[taLLeSt hOteL in BKK - thiS is whEre we StayEd]
[Hmmm..muz plan carefully for my shopping route - searchg for the next location..hahahhaa =x]
["HoP On!!.. i'll bring u to where u wanna go in less than 5mins!!"]
[Ok.. i noe its raining...but who cares... hahaha.. dunno the water on my forehead is sweat or rain liaoz...:P LOL]
[yEs...its so tiring n hot to shop in cHatUchAk MarKet...buT wE eNjOyEd iT!!]
[...pArt of ouR "rewardS" on dAy 1.....ahEm....]
[bUt tiS is stiLL the BEST exPeriEnce frm the entire trip!!... nEw dEtaiLS for Our BB...- all less than S$50/- ]
[sOoO niCE riTE.......i mean the balloon.....ok...me included pls.... haha =X]
[sAd..timE to Bid gOodBye to thiS "bEAutifuL" land.... "i'll be back soon...wait for me...." =P]
aNd i sAy..
10:36 PM
=Little by Little=
There is a thin red line between making a killing and killing yourself. We cannot perform miracles or build our dreams over night, we must place brick on top of brick on top of brick. Perhaps this is why so many people say that patience is the fundamental ingredient to genius; a man or woman who can take such incremental baby steps towards a greater objective without losing focus by getting frustrated, becoming doubtful or feeling defeated.
"If you add a little to a little, and then do it again, soon that little shall be much."-Hesiod
aNd i sAy..
10:05 AM
=Belief=
The risk is to believe in yourself. The Law of Belief is also the Law of Discovery. It is a bridge which leads to the discovery of, and a connection with your tremendous resources for the molding of your character. It is your strength of character that is the foundation upon which a lasting life and successful results are built.
To build a truly strong character, you must challenge your current beliefs, those that may be limiting you from uncovering those gifts within yourself which would empower you and set a sail on a limitless voyage of opportunity. To start this voyage, shake the comfort zones, take the risks and accept the changes. Only in this way will you find out what works and what doesn't.
Begin with your new 'no-limit' approach on life today. Do not concern yourself with the minute changes around you so much as your change of focus.
"Good or Bad is not in the circumstance, but only in the mind of those who encounter it."
-James Allen
aNd i sAy..
9:49 AM
=Don't Know=
Life seems to have more in store for those of us who don't already know everything; the simplest things can become the most gracious gifts. Now, I'm not suggesting that being a simpleton is the key to success but there definitely is something to be said for the old adage that 'ignorance is bliss'. Not ignorance towards your relationships or your environment, not a lack of awareness but a lack of righteous forecast.
If we feel we have the answers already then all of the wonder and glory is sapped from asking the question. There really is a lot that we as people do not know about our world and about ourselves, yet so many people seem to always have the answers. Well, I say 'have the questions'! Explore your right to know less and ask more.
"Miracles are not contrary to nature, but only contrary to what we know about nature."-St. Augustine
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=Why the wedding ring worn on the fourth finger?=
There is a beautiful and convincing explanation given by the Chinese.....
Thumb represents your Parents
Second (Index) finger represents your Siblings
Middle finger represents your-Self
Fourth (Ring) finger represents your Life Partner & the Last (Little) finger represents your children
Firstly, open your palms (face to face), bend the middle fingers and hold them together - back to back. Secondly, open and hold the remaining three fingers and the thumb - tip to tip. Now, try to separate your thumbs (representing the parents)... they will open, because your parents are not destined to live with you lifelong, and have to leave you sooner or later.
Please join your thumbs as before and separate your Index fingers (representing siblings).... they will also open, because your brothers and sisters will have their own families and will have to lead their own separate lives.
Now join the Index fingers and separate your Little fingers (representing your children)....they will open too, because the children also will get married and settle down on their own some day.
Finally, join your Little fingers, and try to separate your Ring fingers (representing your spouse). You will be surprised to see that you just CANNOT.....because Husband & Wife have to remain together all their lives - through thick and thin!!
Please try this out.............>ISN'T THIS A LOVELY THEORY?
aNd i sAy..
4:28 PM
=One More Time=
Why ever give up? It is only our own self-imposed stress and perspective that creates the frustration necessary to give up, it certainly isn't the circumstances or the obstacles that have a mind of their own. Just remember that whatever conflicts are making achieving your goal more difficult are only inanimate constructs of one sort or another; they don't have an objective to make you fail. It is only YOU that has the power to decide to go at it one more time.
"Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time."-Thomas Edison
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been 1 week since i last blogged... heh.. busy lahz.. =X
Aniwae lotsa event happened...1st, Bee took me to ******* to measure my ring size... and paid deposit for the supposedly 'surprise' gift... looks nice... though i cant really remb hw it exactly look like now... coz i was "stunned" by another 1. something carrot...so BIG and SHINY... till it nearly blinded me... hahaha... beta dun get tt otherwise i nid to purchase insurance for my finger manz...=X
well, best part is... the receipt is wit me nw.... and u nid it to collect the gift when its ready... hmm.... am i supp to collect on my own or he will ask the receipt frm me when he wanna collect?... tis i dunno... rather i shall remain as "blur" as possible...in order to make it a "surprise".... hahahaha
that aside, it was Bee's birthday on Sunday, 15th July....had a pre-celebration cum farewell party held @ BBBC on Saturday, 14th July.... the place waS COOL... we had the 3rd level almost entirely to ourselves... coz the whole level was packed wit our ppl!!... hehe.. Bee had lotsa fun...drinking, dancing, entertaining, socialising, luffing, hugging, kissing... yes.. kissing... he kissed almost everybody...male and female... u name it.. u have it.... heh .... kns...
though the main lead is not me... and i spent most of my time sitting there... overall it was still a great nite..seeing Bee having so much fun... hahaha... was quite worried for him initially coz everyone seems to want him drunk... kip offering him drinks.. and he almost looked drunk..which really made me worried... but surprisingly, he managed to walk out of the bar on his own....!!... WOW... haha... tt's like 1st time in his dunno hw many yrs of celebration....feel so proud for him... *winks*
Lucky Bee but Poor Michael and Chiamz... heard both of them puke like nobodi biz....esp Mic...who literally hugged the toilet bowl to bed.... now they are deemed to make Bee drunk the next time they go drinking... *oh manz..*.. NOOOO!!!!!!!!!!..... well, we took a few crazy fotos... shall post it soon after screening....hahahhaa...coz some is X-rated...=X
Okok... Bee's gift - finally i got him wad he wanted... all thanks to my "jun shi"... :)
Went down to yishun to get the gift on saturday... total damage was $440.. burnt a hole in my pocket...but i guess its worth it...getting something which is useful and "practical".. haha...Bee was so happy tt he couldnt kip his hands off tt gadget manz... now his eyes r so glued to the screen tt he cant even see me liaoz....=( sad manz.. (almost regretted my choice, but lucky i still gt solitaire to kip me occupied)... =X
puzzle bubble was fun... at least it kip me occupied while i was @ his office downstairs in the car waiting for him to clear his work during his offday... (almost 2hr)... haha...nw juz gotta find more games to upload then i got more reasons to use it liaoz....=P
heard from Bee tt the game - 'Need for speed' is disappoining...WHY?!... because tt's his fav game...but it gets hang everytime.... dunno manz... guess hv to get 'jun shi' to help again liaoz... haha...if not... guess he gotta lookout for another 'fun' game le....hehe....
Meanwhile.... i shall continue to 'conquer' my solitaire...while he shall continue to stick his eye on his pSp....=P
aNd i sAy..
9:45 AM
*ENVY????**... yeah... u bet so.... i am sooooooo envy.... coz this is not mine... hahahhaa....
believe it?... this is my friend's proposal ring... heh heh....
Anyway....
Was cracking my head hard for the past 2 mths... thinking wad to get for Bee's bday(this sunday)....came up with a few ideas..but jz doesnt seem rite....until 2 days ago...when i finally "confirmed" my decision to get him a psp..
As u see... i'm totally clueless abt this gadget... so obviously i nid to find "jiu bing" lahz... and im glad tt i did...coz... if not... i wld be still thinkg tt psp can only play games...n nthing else...(such a dumbo...ya i noe).. haha... suaku to the max manz... aniwae really think its too chim for me to understand anything... haha... =X so meanwhile, i still gotta bother my "jun shi".... till i get my hands on it....heh heh....
Decided to tell him the truth abt the pressie... initially he was like so insistent nt to gt him anything (whenever i asked wad exactly does he wans for his bdae)... bt when i finally mentioned "psp"..his eyes beam... and was so excited abt it... haha... behaving jz like a little boy going to get his fav toy... =P
Well, he felt bad tt i've to spend so much for his pressie... and kip wantg to pay half of it... but it was rejected by me... reason: Needless to say rite... i mean its meant to be a pressie for him... where got ask him to pay half wan?>?!!.. duhz...
I'm glad that he's feeling excited abt it.. coz it shows tt he really like the "gift" and as it was supp to be a "surprise"... he's supp to act blur and dunno wad he's getting till the actual day (which is like so dumb) haha... but.. it also shows i made the RIGHT choice!!.. soooo happy.... though abit heartpain... gotta spend so much $$ (furthermore im kinda tight on the budget)...but ultimately i still think its gonna be worth it... bringing smiles to both our faces...=)
On the other hand... Bee is eagerly hoping for sat to come fast (though the actual day supp to be sunday) and while "acting blur", he had checked out all information on the website lahz, his friends lahz, literally from all sources available...on the fear tt i might be cheated.....haiz... dunno real anot also...LOL.....
well.. for NOW... Bee just have to wait PATIENTLY for his pressie... and i've to wait for my "jun shi" to confirm his schedule with me to coy me down and make the purchase..............
actually ah.... to be frank... im also very excited... hahahhahaha...coz i nv have a psp b4 mahz!!!....@#!%$!%!@$^%
aNd i sAy..
10:56 PM
=No hair=
There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. "Well," she said, "I think I'll braid my hair today." So she did and she had a wonderful day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head. "Hmmm," she said, "I think I'll part my hair down the middle today." So she did and she had a grand day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head. "Well," she said, "Today I'm going to wear my hair in a ponytail." So she did and she had a fun, fun day.
The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn't a single hair on her head. "YEAH," she exclaimed, "I don't have to fix my hair today!"
--how often can we be so optimistic?....
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=Mountain into a Mole Hill=
While it is important to recognize the true magnitude of your goals and stay realistic, it is more important to simplify the most ambitious project. Not to say you should fool yourself into thinking an enormous goal is not enormous, but rather to convince your heart that it is within your reach. Simplify how you feel about it. Simplify the doubt and worry into acceptable, expected obstacles. Simplify your efforts into a focused and consistent course of activities.
You will see that unreachable heights are right beneath your feet.
"My goal is simple. It is complete understanding of the universe, why it as it is and why it exists as all."-Stephen Hawking
I'm glad he thinks its simple.
--Moral of the story: Tink Big...but iMagine Small... *Hmm...nw wad am i toking abt??....*
aNd i sAy..
9:58 AM
=What Men Really Want?=
"When a woman is unhappy, a man may feel like a failure and may eventually give up trying to fulfill her."
Remember, what a man really wants is to make his partner happy; if he loves a woman, his primary goal is her fulfillment. Her happiness signals to him that he is loved. Her warm responses are like a mirror reflecting back to him a shining image. When she is not happy, he feels like a failure and eventually gives up trying to fulfill her.
-- i think almost all of us knows this... but how many of us (gers) can actually "remb" this golden rule... and be happy always?.... i think i've failed... failed badly... Many a times, we(i) will get upset over the slightest issue and pull a long face the entire day... resulting in spoiling the day for the man... which of coz, ultimately in creating a strain on the r/s......
"A man thrives on appreciation because it directly nurtures his male side. A woman thrives on communication because it directly nurtures her female side."
A man can be stressed out from a day at work, but if his partner is happy with him, he feels fulfilled. When he senses her appreciation for his labor, his stress level dissipates; her happiness is like a shower that washes away the stressful grime of his day.
However, when an exhausted woman returns home to a happy man, he doesnt make her day. It's great that he appreciates her hard work to support the family, but it doesnt in the least diminish her unease. She needs to communicate and feel some nurturing support before she can begin to appreciate him.
--I dunno abt how it applies to the men, but from a woman pt of view...i tink it truely relates to hw we feel. Sometimes, we may b upset over other issues...(probably even totally unrelated to u) but of coz... we cant/dunno hw to snap out of the situation immediately.. which often makes it seem as though we are upset with u... which of coz... making us not able to appreciate u....making u to feel that watever u do, we are always unhappy..... which of coz... is NOT TRUE. Why cant we both understand the simple rule that Man and Woman Think Differently??!!......
=Why Men Pull Away?=
"When a man arrives home to a needy woman, he continues to pull away"
When a man arrives home to a needy woman, he continues to pull away and never learns how to open up. The more he feels pressured to talk or be "in relationship", the more he needs to back off to relax. He can most effectively forget the demands of his job when he feels no pressure or demands from his mate.
Without this advanced relationship skill a woman unknowingly prevents her male partner from successfully making the transition from work to home. Through her demanding more of him or reacting negatively to his need for private time, he may never relax enough to come back into the relationship. If the downward spiral continues, it can actually hinder a man from contacting his loving feelings. He may even believe that he doesnt love his partner anymore.
--Believe me.. Im learning... im seriously learning to adjust myself... to adapt and understand that there's a need for both of us to have our own private time. I know that friends play an important part in ur life...so much so that u r willing to give up the love in ur life... so as not to neglect them.... i noe this is the unspoken Golden Rule that i must obey... and i have to change.. n i'm in the process of adjusting....but i need ur support and time...to accept this with my open heart..
"When a man is not expected to give more, he automatically wants to."
When a man returns home to a nondemanding woman, he feels free to take the time he needs to relax. He can then automatically shift gears and give his partner the love she deserves. When a man is not expected to give more, he automatically wants to.
--Is this really true?...
=Why Couples Break Up?=
"When men feel they are doing enough, they eventually are willing to do a little more."
Woman say they give and give and are tired of giving and not getting back. They want more.
Men say "I give and give, but no matter what I do, it is never enough to make her happy." This is because his condition for fulfillment is primarily based on fulfilling her needs. When she is happy, he is happy.
-- sounds so familiar....haiz....read on....
A woman's fulfillment in a relationship is largely dependent on the man's supportive behaviour, while his happiness is much more linked to her response to his support. When she is fulfilled, he is more willing to do more. When she is not fulfilled, he believes his efforts are not valued and naturally resists doing more.
Men who dont want to give more simply are not feeling sufficiently appreciated. Before asking him for more, a woman must convince her partner that he is already doing enough. To read him a list of what he is doing wrong only creates more resistance. Appreciating what he does do, however, and making specific requests in small increments, is the key to getting more.
Women will always give, and men will always be happy to receive. That is not the problem. The problem is that women give too much and feel overworked, while men give only what their fathers gave and expect to receive the same measure of support.
--above all are jz xtracts from Dr John Gray's book....which i tot i need to constantly remind myself...
someting which almost everyone of us noes....but yet do not necessarily practice it often.....
To u:
i dunno if u ever get to read this... jz to let u noe tt i'm sorry for what had happened n i will do my best to improve on it... do appreciate what u've done for me all these while n the sacrifices u've made.. frm nw on...will learn to giv the luv tt u wan and not i tink what u wan....and hope tt u will do the same for me as well....
aNd i sAy..
4:12 PM